The internet was abuzz with reactions after a woman, known as u/notalaskakidd or Not Alaska, shared her extraordinary story on Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” subreddit.
Her post revolved around breaking up with her boyfriend over the Barbie movie, which featured feminist themes.
Not Alaska described how her boyfriend reacted uncomfortably during the movie, expressing offense and stating it was something she should have watched with her girlfriends instead of him. This incident was the tipping point, given his history of making disrespectful comments about women and the LGBT+ community.
The breakup was not without complications, as her boyfriend had been living with her for six months. After the split, Not Alaska asked him to leave, assuming he had somewhere else to go. However, she later discovered he had no place to stay and his location showed he was two states away, leading to feelings of guilt and responsibility.
She said:
“He didn’t talk to me until we got in the car. He then told me that he was really offended by the movie and said that it was the kind of thing I should have watched with my girlfriends and not with him.”
“Living with him is a whole other story but I couldn’t take it anymore and [after the breakup] had him leave my apartment the next day. I stayed at my friend’s house while he packed up his stuff. He said he understood and that he ‘didn’t want to live with me another second anyway.’”
“I understood where he was coming from but I’m not going to even start explaining why I disagreed. We have been having problems with his weird comments about women, the LGBT+ community, and other stuff. He would deem it ‘bitch sh*t.’ Maybe it was a long time coming but [Barbie]was the straw that broke the camel’s back. I was tired of always having to deal with his attitude and disrespect and was also maybe on this girl-power high. So I told him it was over.”
“I did think it was weird when I came home and all the food in the fridge was gone, all the batteries in our electronics drawer were gone, and he took my phone charger and half the blankets.”
In the comment section, people overwhelmingly supported Not Alaska, reassuring her that she wasn’t to blame for her ex-boyfriend’s actions post-breakup.
Many pointed out his hypocrisy, denigrating women while relying on her for shelter, transportation, and support. As the story unfolded, an update revealed that her ex-boyfriend had been cheating on her with a cousin, confirming his deception and inappropriate behavior.
They said:
“It sounds like he knows someone a couple states away and is trying to make everyone think you made him homeless — a ‘look at what she did to me’ kind of thing. You are ABSOLUTELY not the a**hole. I’m happy you got out of it before his behavior turned even worse for you.”
Not Alaska reponded, adding:
“He’s telling me stuff like ‘[he] is literally so much happier now that you’ve let him go’ and that ‘[he] just felt bad for me’ and that I was ‘charity work.’ And then he said, ‘now [he’s] with his main for real. [He’s] getting some real p— now…” And literally paused. I asked him to clarify and he gave me that ‘oh shiii’ laughing thing boys do when they say something they weren’t supposed to. Then he said ‘f**k you’ and hung up.”
Not Alaska’s story sparked a range of emotions among readers, but the consensus remained that she made the right decision in ending the relationship with her disrespectful and unfaithful partner. The lesson to be learned from this extraordinary tale is clear: prioritize self-respect and well-being and don’t hesitate to leave toxic relationships behind.
